Married Women Ditching Their Single Friends
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In this video, I explore why some married women distance themselves from their single friends, what it signifies, and how African cultural expectations often play a role in shaping this shift. The topic came from a recent Instagram story I shared, where I got a range of perspectives that inspired a deeper dive—so now we're unpacking it all.
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In this video, I explore why some married women distance themselves from their single friends, what it signifies, and how African cultural expectations often play a role in shaping this shift. The topic came from a recent Instagram story I shared, where I got a range of perspectives that inspired a deeper dive—so now we're unpacking it all.
Comment below if you’ve ever been the married one or the single one—whether you did the ditching or were on the receiving end. What was your experience?
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@larose5028
Point me in the direction of where men are constantly gathered to debate whether or not they drop all their unmarried friends.
The obsession women have with categorizing other women based on relationship and parenthood status is odd at best.
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@enumangene6914
Love this!!! It’s so relatable, I appreciate the friends who didn’t abandon me after their marriage! And to those ones who did, may God be with you!✌🏾
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@belizeanbaby
As a single woman speaking 4 myself NO MA'AM. I've learned through plenty of experience that I will not be giving "WELL THINKING / KNOWING ADULTS" grace to abuse & abandon me as a friend. I've had all of these women come back wanting to then continue the friendship in which I've #DENIED ALL . Women are never loyal to each other, but men know how to stay on code to the point where they protect pe-do-philes. If you chose marriage, dont expect me to overextend myself for YOUR personal choices.
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@aminatakamara2848
I think African women do this the most. I was told by a cousin that I should not be hanging out with my single friends because I was married. Thank God I did not listen to her. Just because someone is not married does not mean they cannot give you advice on marriage. They are human.
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@Danielle.strive.2be
So glad you talk about this, the married women at my church had marriage group and stopped talking to me as a single women. Though you made a good point about maturing ones idea of relationships…so doing the work.
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@barbararichardson2747
Friendships are different after marriage, but can still stay intact with boundaries. And, single friends should accept the fact that things are different; at least for those that have respect for their spouse.
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@modesolaojumu2654
You're indeed a wise lady. There's a point you made that resonated with me so much.....when choosing friends you should be discerning whether you're single or married....its not when you're married that all of a sudden a cloak of discernment should fall on you (its giving I'm better than you vibes). There was a time I was talking with a guy and he said when we get married I won't have single friends, i asked why and he said they can lead me astray 😂😂😂. I told him is it yhe same friends that never led me astray as a single lady and you deemed it "worthy" to marry me, that will now lead me astray as a married woman? Joker 😂😂😂😂. I have a very good friend, she's been married going to 14 years now and we are still very good friends...of course life happens, sometimes we're communicating all the time another time not so much but thats life amd it even happens among single friends.
Have a solid calibre of friends, whether single or married and marital status should not be the only connecting factor or like one of the comments said...thing in common that you have. There are so many married ladies that have nothing in common except there marital status same to single people
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@naturallytemiii
Such a FRUITFUL conversation ‼️. With many laughs in this video too 😂😂.
Id say this goes pretty well with friends in relationships even before marriage!
🔑 everyone make time for each other
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@tammykinstrue9849
I have observed some husbands & adult daughters acting very possessive of the wives' time when the wives try to hang out with their friends. They come around, interrupt, and force the wives to divide their attention.
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@DukeChubbyDun
Still gotta watch the rest of the video, but if married women are really getting this advice...and actually taking this advice? That's wild! And I'm Nigerian too. Noone's ever told me to abandon my single friends!
In my case, I am married with 3 young kids (age 4years-7mos). And honestly, I don't talk to my friends enough period (single AND married). And this is my flaw that I'm trying to fix. My husband even calls me out on it. I'm just personally having a hard time managing my energy. I love talking/catching up with my friends, but sometimes, I'm just too tired. But me quasi-abandoning my friends has nothing to do with their singleness. What I WILL say is people in general should be discerning in who they take advice from. If a friend has valid feedback/advice about a character flaw of mine that is adversely impacting my life/relationship(s), i'm taking that advice (doesn't matter if the friend is single). But if someone who doesn't have the lived experience of being in covenant with someone has advice about my marriage, there would have to be a very unique circumstances under which I would take that advice. Honestly, you need to be careful of the advice you get from other married people, sometimes! The standard should not be who's single, who's not. Rather, gain wisdom and understanding, and be very discerning.
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@MarQueen08
When I got married, I thought my single friends would stick around. So I would reach out asking for us to hang out. The responses I got were either none or well, you are married now, and we do not need to hang out. I said WOW this makes no sense to me. I stopped communicating with some of the single friends because of this. Now I do still have 3 single friends, and we are cool. I do not have married friends my own age. However, my married friends are all older than me. My husband does not hang with his single friends to much because they still do single things. I thought my husband was crazy until he showed me what he was talking about, and yeah, boundaries definitely should be set.
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@jareya
This is so true. Great conversation
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@Alex-gu2ws
My friend has progressively been more and more nonchalant about our friendship over the years. We had a girl group since high school, and she left me out of it when she chose her bridesmaids. Then after she eventually stopped returning my calls, or doing anything. I would ask her to hang, and I would go out to her house in another city. Her husband is great, but he was always there. So I don't feel like I've actually have real friend time with her since before marriage. She had a few holiday get togethers with us. But now her friends are on the the edges of her life, just the support for her marriage and family events. Ie she only invites us to kid birthdays etc. and that's the extent of our time - unless you are married with kids.
@CocoBB7
Especially when you were praying for them 😅smh
@atlantidaunderground
women need to find the balance between friends and husband... but likewise i think a single and childfree woman wouldn't want to be friends with a married woman or if she has kids and she doesn't...
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@Roofus-ex7in
Due to biology, women feel saved from their loneliness and potential barrenness (aka death) when they are single. When married, it means that a man has saved them from a miserable life/death. Once there, it's often all they care about. Of course there are some exceptions and these exceptions are great women.
@HiddenTalent_07
I would say your God-fearing single friends. Your regular single friends may have a more immature mindset, be more subject to give you advice from their flesh, and break up a perfectly healthy, albeit imperfect, marriage. That’s all I would add. Keep your praying single mates close. The ones that don’t pray, will encourage you to be disobedient to your spouse, stew longer in unforgiveness, etc. Same with those that want to keep married friends. Keep married friends who are happy in their marriage, who are prayerful, operating in God’s design, and can hold you accountable.
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@Jaycarbrownie12
BAD ADVICE lol no where in the Bible does it say you can’t have single friends. You could start double dating and your married friend sleep with your husband .
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@emexokezie7796
Many unmarried women tend to interfere with the married friend's husband, plus the extra gossip.. So ma'am, I don't blame these women!
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@AkashaDreamsDotCom
You are saying that the elders are moving from a place of fear and insecurity? That's silly. Listen to them. Ditch your single friends when you get a husband.
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