Signs you’re healing from narcissistic relationships

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   @vannahkeeb 6 months ago

   My first sign of healing: Seeing him for who he really is.

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   @OTABANO 3 years ago

   My signs of healing are:
   1: Getting back to do the things i like to do
   2: Indifferent to triggers
   3: control over rumination
   4: I'm comfortable staying alone with my thoughts and living alone
   5: no more self-criticism and more self-compassion
   6: Making myself laugh again
   7: being grateful for the life valuable lesson
   8: I interact with people like i used to but I learned to not drop my guard quickly this time.
   9: What does not kill me makes me strong 😊

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   @Xaxtarr_Neonraven 2 years ago

   I think the hardest truth I've ever learned is that there are people in this world who couldn't care less about you.

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   @demigaines5644 3 years ago

   My Signs Of Healing From A Narcissistic Relationship
   1) Not Caring Why The Narcissist Isn’t Speaking To Me
   2) No Longer Chasing Wanting His Acceptance
   3) You Feel Lighter
   4) Chronic Physical Symptoms Began To Alleviate.
   5 ) You Feel A Sense Of Relief.

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   @missvee24-q1x 2 years ago

   My Signs of healing:
   1. No longer taking projections personally
   2. No longer questioning my self worth if someone doesn't see my value
   3. Setting strong boundaries and walking away from anyone not respecting it
   4. No longer trying to fix anyone that 'needs fixing'. I tell myself they need to work on themselves
   5. Capable of strong open communication and being vulnerable, not worrying too much about someone using it against me (self-worth is through the roof)
   6. Less rumination, however I allow negative emotions to surface when it needs to as part of releasing old trauma and pains
   7. Being comfortable with negative emotions and have strong emotional regulations without needing anyone
   8. Not interested in external validations or approvals from anyone
   9. No longer feeling guilt for someone's struggle, although I offer compassion and empathy but not sticking around to fix them.
   
   Ps: I've had both anxious and avoidant attachment, I worked through my patterns and behaviours and now I lean more securely attached. With healing, I no longer find these unhealthy behaviours attractive which makes me want to stay around.

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   @gillianfrances 2 years ago

   It feels like you've been in prison for all those years but didn't commit any crime. It feels like a terrible loss of precious time in your life. It feels very sad.

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   @rocky1raquel 3 years ago

   SIGNS YOU’RE RECOVERING:
   
   1. You no longer post on social media hoping that they’ll see it 24:46
   2. You ruminate less 25:54
   3. You have fewer nightmares and dreams about them 27:00
   4. You hear about them or their name and you DON’T feel that nervous system reaction (fight flight freeze or fawn) 28:08
   5. You slowly start getting to “indifference.” 29:48
   6. You’re beginning to learn from it (regret turns to acceptance) 30:26
   7. You start to allow yourself to move forward 31:49
   8. You start distancing yourself from other information sources (people) around that person 32:45
   9. Stop concerning yourself with the narcissist’s failures or losses 34:17

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   @chiarascuro3566 3 years ago

   My first sign of healing was noticing my self-confidence was coming back after being totally destroyed. Thank you, Dr. Ramani!

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   @JodyFidelis 2 years ago

   Learn to be done with people. Not mad. Not bothered. Just done.

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    @anniejuan1817 3 years ago

    When indifference outweighed the hurt and anger, that's when I knew I'm healing. The best revenge is complete indifference!

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    @pavanatanaya 3 years ago

    Taking a minute to assess what happened is not something a narc does. They just move along indifferent to the bloody trail behind them.

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    @LSTEdD1 2 years ago

    “Making healing not about them.” Brilliant

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    @alexismerrilldragonqueen 2 years ago

    Indifference is where you want to be regarding the pathological narcissist/s in your life. Like Dr. Ramani says, you don't care about the good, you don't care about the bad, you just don't care anymore. It's a beautiful place to be.

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    @sueluvu 3 years ago

    A big part of my recovery from the scapegoat role was realising my family are strangers to me. If you’re not emotionally connected to them, then the pain starts to fall away. Narcissist families have no emotional connections formed from the start, so when you leave, that grieving is easier. Thanks Dr Ramani 🙏

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    @nazishyounus 2 years ago

    My love goes out to everyone that is stuck in a narcissistic relationship right now ❤

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    @PaulTheFranklin 3 years ago

    "I'm not indifferent to their future victims, but it's not my job to rescue them." 🙌 21:29

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    @paey-p3 3 years ago

    The only way to take control from a narcissist is to get yourself from their domain first. You wont be able to figure out anything until and unless you are out of the hellish world. I will tell you one of my favourite stories. Once a King was too disturbed by everything that was happening around him. He felt as if no one was loyal to him and he was always afraid of his kingdom being attacked by perpetrators. He lost his sleep and his life had become hell. So he thought of taking a brief sojourn in the countryside. He passed through lush green fields and picturesque landscapes. The silent breeze that brushed through his hair filled his heart with joy. That is when he saw a farmer who was putting fence around his farmland. But his farmland had weeds all over and they hardly had any crops. This intrigued the King. He asked the farmer as to why was he putting a fence around the farm when the farm itself was covered with weeds. To this the farmer said that the farm was his own so he could get rid of the weeds whenever he liked. But he cant stop the stray dogs from running over his fields and destroying them. That is why he was putting the fence. To stop the stray dogs from venturing into the field. Once he was very assured about the security of his fields he can work on clearing the weeds and planting crops. On hearing this the King somewhat got the answer which he had been searching for. The human mind is also like the field. You cant control assholes from fiddling with your mind or saying bullshit. But you can definitely put a fence ( figuratively) so that these assholes cant influence you. And until and unless you dont put a fence you can never work on yourself. Once you have distanced yourself from toxic people then you can work on the healing process. Same is the case with narcs. Narcs are these stray dogs who suck your energy emotionally. They play mind games for fun because their mind wants melodrama. They hurt the very people who love them. So total isolation from these narcs is absolutely essential for the well being of your Mind. Once you are out of their mind games you can take decisions rationally. Narcs try to drain you emotionally. So everytime you respond to their low vibrations you tend to come to their level. But when you react confidently without panicking and without responding to their negative vibrations that is when you Win. When someone realises that you arent being influenced or being manipulated by their actions they will get tired of it. And after cutting them off completely from your lives you should work on your healing process. Work on clearing your mental clutter and keep yourself preoccupied. Read books and most importantly try to find your Purpose in life. When you find your Purpose you will be able to bear any pain in this World. Most importantly help others in need. When you find someone else who is stuck with a narc help them to get out of that. I feel this is the way to take control from a narcissist. P.S: I hardly find people around me who know about emotional abuse. But I think everyone should read and know about it. In today’s mean world you will find a lot of people who try to influence you or demoralise you using the sweetest of words. Its about identifying these covert manipulators and distancing yourself from them. I have immense respect for people who have survived narcissistic partners. They happen to be the most strongheaded and emotionally stable people you can come across. I learn a lot of things from them. Truly the broken will always be the most beautiful. Additionally, Here's a clue for anyone of you that think your spouse might be cheating, but you think they are just too clever to be caught, your feelings of being cheated on are not facts and your intuitions are bullshit unless you find out for sure. So before you bring your sickness and blame into the relationship get some fucking proof and some mental help consult a private investigator today Metaspyhub@gmail. com for the purpose know where you stand in your relationship...

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    @lindawiserbrown9908 2 years ago

    My beautiful daughter married a narcissistic jerk. He love bombed us and her. He turned her into a brain washed flying monkey. She also has narcissistic tendencies. But she was a beautiful person when she lived her religion. He made her his flying monkey. I have not approved of some destructive decisions they have made. Because of this they have cut me off. I no longer get to see my four year old grandson. I am so thankful for your videos. I am 56, and I had no idea about narcissistic disorder until my husband realized our son in law is a narcissist. I'm realizing my daughter may be rejected or walk away from her husband at some point. I am watching your videos to know how to handle this possible aftermath. She's a very passionate person, and I worry she will be suicidal if she is rejected. I could use prayers for her and my grandson. Linda Brown

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    @heilseitan5838 3 years ago

    My spouse is currently in therapy, dealing with a lifetime of narcissistic abuse from his mother. He's a great person, but I can definitely see the destruction that she caused in his life. It wasn't until a few years into our relationship, that he actually started to learn that his mother is definitely a narcissist. I think that realization peaked when his father was diagnosed with cancer and she had a meltdown like a toddler, all because he was "getting more attention". It was quite disgusting to see. I'm glad to know that people can and do heal from this.

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    @amandarigdon3672 3 years ago

    Having a narcissistic Mother I thought I had no choice but to put up with these types of people. I married 2 just like her. I am alone, I’ve let all that baggage go. Thank you Dr Ramani for helping me heal.

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