The Difference Between Narcissism and Emotional Abuse Explained
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If you’ve watched our videos, you've heard us use the term narcissism and emotional abuse, and you might be wondering why we almost always use those two terms simultaneously. They are not the same thing, but there are many overlapping characteristics, and many of the people we work with here at the Marriage Recovery Center have both narcissistic traits and emotionally abusive traits. In this video Dr. Hawkins explains the differences and similarities between a narcissist and an emotional abuser.
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Dr. Hawkins and his team of experts offer education and professional training as well as treatment for narcissistic and emotional abuse.
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The internet is inundated with hyperbole and misinformation about narcissism, leaving many people confused and hopeless. Get the facts about narcissism and emotional abuse from someone who has been researching, writing about and treating narcissism and emotional abuse for over a decade.
Dr. Hawkins is a best-selling author and clinical psychologist with over three decades of experience helping people break unhealthy patterns and build healthier relationships. He is the founder and director of the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute which offers education, training and counseling for people who want to break free of, and heal from, emotional abuse.
Whether the perpetrator of the abuse is your spouse, partner, parent, boss, friend or family member, we offer practical advice for anyone trapped in a toxic, destructive relationship. In addition to narcissism & emotional abuse, topics include covert, reactive, spiritual, secondary, relationship trauma and more.
#narcissist #narcissism #emotionalabuse
https://marriagerecoverycenter.com/relationship-assessmen…
👉 Click here to take the quiz now: https://emotionalabuseinstitute.net/NEAI
If you’ve watched our videos, you've heard us use the term narcissism and emotional abuse, and you might be wondering why we almost always use those two terms simultaneously. They are not the same thing, but there are many overlapping characteristics, and many of the people we work with here at the Marriage Recovery Center have both narcissistic traits and emotionally abusive traits. In this video Dr. Hawkins explains the differences and similarities between a narcissist and an emotional abuser.
💬 Need help for your relationship? Schedule a call with our Client Care Team and start your healing journey today! https://marriagerecoverycenter.com/book-a-call
🟥 SUBSCRIBE: https://bit.ly/3Y8Wm8S
Dr. Hawkins and his team of experts offer education and professional training as well as treatment for narcissistic and emotional abuse.
🌐 WEBSITE: https://marriagerecoverycenter.com/
☎️ PHONE: (206) 219-0145
📧 EMAIL: [email protected]
About
The internet is inundated with hyperbole and misinformation about narcissism, leaving many people confused and hopeless. Get the facts about narcissism and emotional abuse from someone who has been researching, writing about and treating narcissism and emotional abuse for over a decade.
Dr. Hawkins is a best-selling author and clinical psychologist with over three decades of experience helping people break unhealthy patterns and build healthier relationships. He is the founder and director of the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute which offers education, training and counseling for people who want to break free of, and heal from, emotional abuse.
Whether the perpetrator of the abuse is your spouse, partner, parent, boss, friend or family member, we offer practical advice for anyone trapped in a toxic, destructive relationship. In addition to narcissism & emotional abuse, topics include covert, reactive, spiritual, secondary, relationship trauma and more.
#narcissist #narcissism #emotionalabuse
@MB-sg8dx
My husband is a covert narc and does not suck the energy out of a room verbally or overtly brag except within our own family to our grown kids. But he does love to make a show out of how he engages with others whereas he utterly neglects me. He is also very emotionally abusive to me while treating others like gold
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@maggieb5326
I have often described my husband as the nicest guy you ever met unless you were me. This matches my experience. The clarity of this presentation is most helpful. The confusion of living with abuse from a person who is kind to everyone else is so very real and deeply painful. Thank you. My question is how does this differ from the covert narcissist? Is this descriptor ‘covert narcissist’ simply incorrect terminology?
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@brendawarner5415
I think my partner is emotionally abusive. You cleared it up for me, because he doesnt check all the narcissist boxes. It hurts the most that he gives everyone else kindness and consideration, but is cold and critical and impatient with me.
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@Blessed591
Abuse is abuse . You can label it as narcissistic or emotional , boils down to the same thing . . .
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@dailyicelatte
You will never know if he is abusive unless you're me or my kids, live in the same house with him. Let me put it this way, he wants everything to be perfect. Perfect means following his orders, making him happy giving him what he wants, no stress, no arguement (Meaning we can't have or say our opinions).
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@gwenhutson
I think it’s very sad that we have so many people living with so much pain and not understanding where it’s coming from or how to fix it. Including me.
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@sayno2672
I noticed something in narcissistic people that they can be sadistic towards to someone in vulnerable situation, but they never show it in public. And they are very calculative in every moves.
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@1FantasticDreamBird
Before I knew my husband was a narcissist, I would tell my psychotherapist that my life is hell. No matter what I did, it made no difference in my marriage. When we went shopping, if a clerk was helping someone else, he'd insist on taking the clerk away from the person to help him. If the clerk told him to wait, my husband would leave everything on the counter and walk out. I didn't get why he'd behave this way. It's hard to believe that another human being can be so entitled, cold and calculating, lifeless, devoid of depth, completely without empathy. He didn't want to know. He already knows everything that he needs to know and since he's perfect there's no need to discuss anything.
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@ESumner
What about borderline men? Fear of abandonment = vengeance, extreme silent treatment, extreme victim complex, severe financial abuse and controlling/ isolating, very intimidating and threatening, I’m the blame of all my own abuse, he’s just an innocent victim of circumstance ‘what else was I supposed to do’. Rationalizing/ justifying all abuse TO ME.
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@terrysnightmare
I’ve been living with emotional abuse from my spouse for 45 years! Prior to that I had abusive parents. It just never ends
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@GailManseau
I was married to an emotionally abusive man for over 20 years. Everyone always said what a nice guy he was, including my children. None of them knew what I had to deal with for years. I was happy to get out of that marriage and find someone that loved me unconditionally.
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@dianasmith1398
Yes my husband was helpful and considerate to other and he appeared to be my nice guy. But he was emotionally abusive to me and controlling with the kids. We all walked on egg shells. I was nervous to speak up. Our marriage ended many years ago, after we were married 23 years.
I had to leave cause I felt like I was seriously going nuts.
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@cathywilson4112
I really thought my husband was a narcissist or at least had some traits. Listening to this video now I think he might be an emotional abuser. I see where they easily get confused. Either way my sons & myself paid the price for many years. I thought he also had Border line personality disorder. I am constantly searching for answers on why my relationship has been such a train wreck. We live as married singles.😢
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@debrabowman8750
Dr. Hawkins, my 'x' was emotional abusive, I attributed that mostly due to him being narcissistic, everything he did was for his own benefit, he had no empathy, I didn't matter to him, except when he wanted to be seen as a happily married man. He reminded me frequently that he didn't do anything wrong and he did not hurt my feelings. He told me he was a great husband because he allowed me to live in his home. He wasn't grandiose in a crowd as you describe, but would sit silently. In a small group, he could be loud and he frequently embellished his background and accomplishments, to the point I hated being with him when he talked like that, I felt like an accomplice to his lies, if anyone knew the truth or if they would ever find out the truth. He was always nice to folks out in public, at church, even my grown sons. When I decided I couldn't take it anymore and began the process of leaving him, everyone said 'he's so nice'. I could go on and on. So, with my 'x', comparing to your list in the video, there is not a clearly defined distinction from narcissism and emotional abuse, but more like mostly both, or at a minimum some of both. I could write a book on all he did and said, I have worked with people all my life, career in healthcare and many years before that in retail, never have I experienced a person like that. It's a lot like getting hit by a train and drug down the track for a couple hundred miles, still alive.
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@khailavandrovec4690
I am trying to end my marriage with an emotionally abusive husband. And I agree with everything you said. My husband is nice and generous to others, help others, but try to dominate me by putting me down.
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@jennifere4641
I left after 28 years of marriage. Thank you for distinguishing between the two terms. The father of my children exhibited traits of both. I'm alone for 3 years now. I still feel tired, but so empowered after starting over. I thought I was going to be lonely, but after the silent treatment and being called a parasite, I'm happy alone. I'm a teacher, so my life is busy and my friends and mom have been so supportive since Jan 2020✨✨✨🌈🌈🌈
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@bmarchbanks7661
The narc will act however they want when ever they want.
Emotional abuser only does it when no one’s around .
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@pierrettebrousseau282
Thank you, Dr. Hawkins, for an enlightening video. Still a mystery to many women: how can a man be so "nice" with everybody else and be a horror show with their spouse (and blame their spouse for their cruelty and explosive anger)? How can this disconnect even happen?
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@jeanwillette
I have been emotionally abused all my life. By my mom and now my husband. I also just found out I have an ulcer.
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@emilyronning2208
i think a lot of times emotional abusers are victims / children of narcs or married to narcs.
I was emotionally abusive because i learned it was normal behavior from my narc parent and emotionally abusive parent. I had to teach myself how to live in a proper way and i'm still working on it. It's very hard to be normal and good to others when you never had it modeled. but you have to take personal accountability as well. if you use the excuse that you never knew better ongoingly, you're only lying to yourself. you have to learn how to take accountability and be dedicated to learning + changing.
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