THE Complete Child Custody Strategy/Guide
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Two Strategies for Winning – Episode 157 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Almost all high-conflict (and expensive!) divorces involve at least one party, and sometimes both, using a “negative strategy”. A negative strategy involves tearing the other person down, telling the Court what a horrible person or parent they are, and engaging in all manner of mudslinging. So, how do you beat them at their own game? You use a different strategy, one that is built for long-term success and will expose their mudslinging. We’ll tell you what that second strategy is in this episode. For more information, please visit us at divorceuniversityonline.com. Thanks for listening!
@aricamaxwell9126
Strategy #2 is not to tear the other person down, but to build yourself up.
There saved you over half the video.
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@My2corgidogs
My custody battle ended but I’m here to send love to any parents currently going through this living hell. Deep breaths, it ended in my case hopefully it will for you, whoever you are. Stay the course stay calm and you’ll get through it ❤
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@mminniear984
High conflict people are very good at convincing other people you are the problem. Especially when they’re doing things that get you emotionally worked up or if there’s a history of abuse.
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@FeckinDarlin
Strategy Recap:
1. Be the one to stop the conflict.
2. Focus your energy on building yourself up to the Court, rather than attempting to paint the other parent in a negative light.
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@bp6087
You are SO RIGHT!! Thank you for the advice! I went into trial against my Ex for custody. She had an attorney. I had GOD and the truth! They fired so many shots at me. I was devastated and flustered. I didn't even know how to respond. I didn't throw any shots back. I focused on telling the judge about the positive things I was in the process of doing for my daughter. The judge ruled fairly and explained his decisions thoroughly. Some of it felt like a mixed bag, but at least we have some guidelines established to move forward. There is room for hope, again! I saw this video TWO days before our court hearing! Thank you all SO MUCH! God Bless!
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@iammattredmond
The strategy starts at 12:00
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@KimTidwell-h4q
Above ANYTHING else FIGHT LIKE HELL AND DON'T GIVE UP!!!!!!
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@michellelynneActs2024
Child focused, problem solver, positive reactions over emphasizing negative behaviors.
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@Yourfavbasketballgirlie
I can see why many lawyers are sociopaths. Laughing about another parent destroying the kids lives isn’t funny. Family court is like hell. Fight for your kids. The courts are not fair, fight.
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@imnotdoriannakamoto6245
The laughing is very off putting. This is very painful and I’d bet a lot of the people coming here for help are dealing with narcissistic partners, PTSD and abuse.
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@vennielomeli6547
What needs to be severely addressed is Parental Alienation. It should be criminalized. Parental Alienation is premeditated mental injury to a child.
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@readytogarden3770
I am long out of my custody battle. After a year of fighting he gave up and let me even move to a different state! All I had to do is reduce child support and spousal support! Was all about the money!
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@bigant3819
I like the idea to build your case by point how you're a benefit to your child, how you care for the child's well being and not try to tear the other parent apart. This is a more peaceful route instead of the usual attack route. Before this video, I'm worrying about what my ex partner will use against me to tear me down and I have to figure out how to defend myself in that situation. I'm more of the peaceful, problem solve person, I can't stand fighting, especially when I was a kid, seeing my parents fight wasn't really a great sight to see. I knew once my child was born, I didn't want the same thing and made a lot of growth to where I am. I hope there's common ground in the parent confrontation room.
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@qianahightower1127
It's obvious that you both understand the depth of this situation and are passionate about helping people in these situations. Your laughter isn't offensive to me It's proof you're human, you understand, and have experience. I'm sure you've seen all kinds of foolish things happen in attempts to get favorable results. These situations are extremely difficult and painful to work through. My focus is on advice on how to ensure I am equipped for handling things legally. I'm nervous but my child deserves love, safety, and peace. So thank you for the honest tips from the legal perspective.
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@notsofamousgamer8404
I listened to this last year before court, and I needed to hear this again as I need to go to court again. Definitely need to be humble and know not to attack.
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@goingoingone8667
Guys should document EVERYTHING! Don’t let this stop you from doing it. We have too. No one believes us unless we do.
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@alyssaswann9784
I just found you guys and I love that. I found you guys first I have court in two hours and I almost went rogue thank God I found you guys because your personality is truly of mine and I think because of you I would definitely stay true to my peaceful, calm, demeanor, and happy spirit. I had made a list of all the wrong things this morning to say about his dad but because if you have changed my mind and I will put that on the back burner to use and take your advice thank you for bringing humor and good charm to this conversation and debate in our lives. It is much needed to be on the lighter side of the heart if you can be regarding this matter becauseit can be heavy for it’s not heavy for me, but it does take a toll and I am grateful to have found you guys thank you. Good luck to me today.
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@arizbethserr
My son’s father has been withholding our son since their return from summer vacation. It’s been super tough. I have a hearing on Tuesday & i’m self representing myself. God is by my side, the truth will come to light!
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@chloelysiak9760
I like videos like this...but I wish they would do a video addressing situations that are actually dangerous and detrimental to the children.
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@Vxzrrr-c1w
I’m going to be respresenting myself in my up and coming court case. She has alienated me from my son who is 6 years of age. For the past 6 years she had blocked me from all ways of communication on and off, sometimes leading me to believe we will be on good terms and work things out, but the truth was she is very emotionally unstable and unpredictable, one month I’m seeing my son the next month I’m blocked again and being told I’ll never see him again. It’s effected me in many ways. I appreciate this video because now I’m motivated and ready to do what it takes to win my case over to joint custody.
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