VERBAL ABUSE TYPES: INVISIBLE WOUNDS
Dr. Kim Sage, Licensed Psychologist
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My last video was about using name calling as a type of verbal abuse, this video explores 15 ways we can be verbally abusive, perhaps without realizing it.
Is yelling in anger verbally abusive? What about discounting or trivializing?
How does it feel when someone yells at you or tries to make you feel stupid or irrelevant?
Verbal abuse is emotional abuse and this video describes all the ways we might be wounded by how a parent, partner or another speaks to us or how we speak to others.
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Is yelling in anger verbally abusive? What about discounting or trivializing?
How does it feel when someone yells at you or tries to make you feel stupid or irrelevant?
Verbal abuse is emotional abuse and this video describes all the ways we might be wounded by how a parent, partner or another speaks to us or how we speak to others.
www.drkimsage.com
@drkimsage
Dr. Kim Sage Podcasts on KX FM in Laguna Beach, CA.
💕💕💕💕💕NEW VIDEOS SOON:
SEX AND YOUR ATTACHMENT STYLE!!!💕💕💕💕💕💕
IDEAL MOMS VS BORDERLINE MOMS
SIGNS YOU'RE DATING A NARCISSIST
@nedargiordano7018
Everybody dies, the abuser dies a coward
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@KoolT
5:33 last YELLING and anger
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@sddoublee
I have noticed that if you ignore the abuser, like my father, which I have ignored, the man moves on to my wife and my kids. It's a cycle. These people are sick.
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@tangerinefizz11
Words often reverberate for years afterwards.
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@buildfireforchrist
"You cant trust your feelings "
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@BeMeSnappeist
My mother does all 15, but she says Im the abuser... lol
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@amandaj8028
My mom is one of these people who is always intense, aggressive and over the top . I have AVPD which I believe was because my mom is so dominating and her energy is always so negative and angry. She sucks all the air out of the room.
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@ladennayoung2939
Yeah. My mother tends to cut me off often while I'm speaking. She tries to be dismissive towards me. Then she is constantly fixated on trying to get me to pay attention to her. Like she is trying to get me to compliment her or be overly concerned about her. Even if I'm going through something myself. She isn't generally concerned about my well-being whatsoever. Ugh.
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@deadbeats4417
I thought some of these count as emotional abuse instead of verbal
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@mariee.9781
I know this video is about parents, but it's a T for how my two uncles treat me. And they brag to me of how they can get away with it.(I have ptsd), I'm in a safe place now though.
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@Chakrada1
Oh God! All of these. My mother's verbal abuse was jaw-dropping and eye-watering in what passed for conversation in our house (just a mugging of reason, evidence, truth, and personal distress) but her artillery was reserved for letters and emails when she could consider her words. When I started therapy I took some of her letters, and we quickly agreed that all subsequent written communication would be read by her first and then deleted so I didn't have to experience it first hand! I was not the only person she attempted to wound in this way, but the violence of her words is unlike anything I've ever encountered elsewhere.
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@nitz3012
So I had to shut down a text conversation with my verbally (text?)abusive friend who was reaming me out for saying I was highly sensitive and needed some grace to figure out how to manage my responsibilities and it was turned around at me as thoigh I’m using my tears to manipulate and control him. 😭 I’ve blocked that interaction and any subsequent. I am riddled with guilt about it as I know this will now be turned around and used at me as an abusive tactic. This person does have trauma. I’m afraid for their mental well being.
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@AK-be9uz
These are word for word taken out of Patricia Evans' book The Verbally Abusive Relationship. Great info but probably should give her credit
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@cindyreeves5048
Dr Sage. ☺️ Thank you for this concise video.
2 weeks ago I put what I needed in my car & left my verbally abusive alcoholic husband. He does everything on the list, but when he’s hammered, it gets super special. I started to fear for my safety.
I sought help.
A friend gave me Patricia Evans book: “The Verbally Abusive Relationship” which has the list you just presented. It opened my eyes.
The DAY I started reading it is the day I started to make my plan to gracefully & silently LEAVE.
I’m no contact with him & I’ve retained my lawyer.
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@algernon74
This video sounds like my life story…I’ve been in psychological treatment for over twenty years and I feel like I’m just getting started at healing the wounds from verbal abuse. I’ve gone from one toxic environment to another. Friendships, relationships, employment…all messed up because I didn’t break the cycle of being verbally abused to becoming verbally abusive. I don’t trust myself. My self esteem is a bit trashed. Now I have negative inner voice that is harassing me everyday…I’m working on myself. I’ve received advice from my counselor, but I’m struggling a bit.
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@tremblingsand1358
This video was very helpful. I was abused from my people and the struggles of the feeling abused everyday like for months makes me think that need to change. I'm watching your videos and I like what you say kinda everything this is so true.
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@Blessedand.favored
Going through verbal abuse right now and I’m over it. I feel so worthless and that I don’t matter. Tired of feeling like I need to walk on eggshells literally when speaking to my partner because he’s always angry and cursing and it’s draining my soul. When I speak up I get belittled so quick and spoken to like I’m garbage. I think I’m understanding why the ex left …..I love him dearly but it’s becoming too much and I feel I can’t take no more 😞 11 years together and I never felt more lonely than what I do now
@abacus749
I left work in 2017 to focus on my own work and since 2020 an individual in the family home who cannot be removed, has made it their business to go out of their way to verbally abuse me daily, turning the house into a verbal torture chamber.
@whatdoyouknow123
I have been discarded and a lot of this took place . When in it I took it because I saw their vulnerability too. I never ever want to be in this sort of thing again
@robinnightwing3000
Thank you. I’ve experienced almost all of them from friends, exfiance and parents! It’s hopeless!