Becoming Functional Again After Narcissistic Abuse
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Abuse and trauma greatly reduce your brain functioning. Maybe you’ve noticed that you now have difficulties managing your life after abuse. In this video, I’m going to talk about executive functioning skills, which is basically how you get stuff done. I’ll let you know what these are (and you’ll likely notice that you have some challenges with these skills). Then I’ll give you 7 powerful ways to get functional again so you can avoid the anxiety, frustration, panic, paralysis, procrastination and overwhelm.
☀️WEBSITE & BLOG: http://www.innerintegration.com
📚 QUICK START GUIDE: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery | Get the 3 most essential steps to start moving forward now — https://a.co/d/1JGvTuV
📚 THE JOURNEY: A Roadmap for Self-healing After Narcissistic Abuse — https://a.co/d/guqmEJv
💡Get to the NEXT LEVEL of your recovery with the 12-WEEK SANA (Self-healing After Narcissistic Abuse) course http://bit.ly/12-WeekSANA
💎 Create a whole NEW RELATIONSHIP with yourself and eradicate your people-pleasing patterns with the SELF-CARE MASTERY COURSE http://bit.ly/TheSCMC
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NOTE: Meredith Miller is not a therapist or counselor. She is a holistic integration coach, helping you to self-heal and transform your life after narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships. Meredith teaches the mindsets and tactical skills to help with recovery. She works with a mind-body-spirit approach to wellness that is a valuable complement to traditional psychotherapy. Meredith recommends that you also seek out a licensed therapist who has experience with narcissistic abuse and relational trauma in order to help you with the complex-PTSD symptoms. Thank you for taking responsibility for yourself!
Intro Credits:
📀Track: Happy — Allan Adams & Alan Skindro [Audio Library Release] Music provided by Audio Library Plus Watch: https://youtu.be/5vMPVOvvQLEFree Download / Stream: https://alplus.io/Happy
End Screen Credits:
📸Photography by Kelsey Smith Photography
📀Music: Vast Chant by Oshóva https://soundcloud.com/osh-va Creative Commons — Attribution 3.0 Unported — CC BY 3.0 http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/ Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/NlUQbrlb2iQ
☀️WEBSITE & BLOG: http://www.innerintegration.com
📚 QUICK START GUIDE: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery | Get the 3 most essential steps to start moving forward now — https://a.co/d/1JGvTuV
📚 THE JOURNEY: A Roadmap for Self-healing After Narcissistic Abuse — https://a.co/d/guqmEJv
💡Get to the NEXT LEVEL of your recovery with the 12-WEEK SANA (Self-healing After Narcissistic Abuse) course http://bit.ly/12-WeekSANA
💎 Create a whole NEW RELATIONSHIP with yourself and eradicate your people-pleasing patterns with the SELF-CARE MASTERY COURSE http://bit.ly/TheSCMC
🎧SUBSCRIBE TO THE INNER INTEGRATION PODCAST🎧
— iTunes (Apple) https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/inner-integration-pod…
— Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/5hNQv0WeJgKSGCu4tKgHff?si=x…
📚INNER INTEGRATION’S RECOMMENDED READING LIST: https://www.amazon.com/shop/innerintegration?listId=2BIO5…
🧘♀️INNER INTEGRATION MERCHANDISE: https://teespring.com/stores/inner-integration
NOTE: Meredith Miller is not a therapist or counselor. She is a holistic integration coach, helping you to self-heal and transform your life after narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships. Meredith teaches the mindsets and tactical skills to help with recovery. She works with a mind-body-spirit approach to wellness that is a valuable complement to traditional psychotherapy. Meredith recommends that you also seek out a licensed therapist who has experience with narcissistic abuse and relational trauma in order to help you with the complex-PTSD symptoms. Thank you for taking responsibility for yourself!
Intro Credits:
📀Track: Happy — Allan Adams & Alan Skindro [Audio Library Release] Music provided by Audio Library Plus Watch: https://youtu.be/5vMPVOvvQLEFree Download / Stream: https://alplus.io/Happy
End Screen Credits:
📸Photography by Kelsey Smith Photography
📀Music: Vast Chant by Oshóva https://soundcloud.com/osh-va Creative Commons — Attribution 3.0 Unported — CC BY 3.0 http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/ Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/NlUQbrlb2iQ
@shredder75
It took me 4 years of Meredith's guidance in addition to good local therapy to get back on the horse of life, and 6 months of no contact to clear the cognitive dissidence. Any new interactions deeply affected my executive function. Some may say it can never happen to them, but I was on top of my game when we met, a CEO, and successful in many areas of life; and in the end, was nearly homeless, jobless, and penniless. Please don't let the narc elevator take you to the basement, you can get off on any floor. A key turning point was when I took self responsibility and learned to self love. Keep fighting the good fight Meredith!
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@myfuturepuglife
It sounds like you're talking about me. Overwhelmed, unorganized, low energy and barely holding down a part time job that I don't enjoy. I'm going to try these. Thanks so much!
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@JimKJeffries
Going through my house, top to bottom, purging, cleaning organizing (1 time annually, no more than twice)...going for walks, while listening to classical music (more effective than any antidepressants)...listening to podcasts while doing mindless tasks (I think of it as hanging out with healthy folk on top of their game)...started bicycling everywhere, always wanted to be that guy anyways...using a weekly & monthly white board (but don't get lost in planning, many use this like procrastination)...make a video where you coach yourself up, for you to watch later (you can be & will be your greatest coach)... be healthy, good sleep, exercise (not perfection but progress)... cook for yourself (cooking is an art that requires practice & your worth it)...go participate in activities that involve other people, for me Masonic lodge, Rotary, mentoring, hang out with friends (too much self isolation)...sit with the feelings, I give myself time to do nothing but focus on whatever I am feeling (it was our unresolved traumas that helped us to be so tasty for these cluster b monsters)...love the isolation tank, most folk are magnesium deficient, poor absorption through gut but great through skin (the salt in the tank keeps us floating & is magnesium, feels awesome)...I took on mowing 5 acres as a part time job, so I could walk in the grass barefoot, wonderful stuff.. & most importantly know that everything that made you wonderful, all the great you gave away, is limitless (so no body took your best, & if you allowed another to unlock your best, awesome, now start doing it for yourself. Talk gently to yourself, and know you are loved.
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@dellamarie4650
I was completely wrecked and frozen after the abuse.
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@Ange-e2h
Learning and growing everyday. Its all making sense now. And I was not going crazy. ❤
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@qimzel
I've been doing this for a while without really knowing why, because it's not that I actually forget everything.. Now I understand why.. Also, that feeling of panic when there's 2 things in 1 day is soooo relatable! Also already being anxious about something I need to be ready for in the late afternoon already at 8 in the morning.. Thank you!
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@stephere5345
I needed this video today. Before narc abuse, I was on top of all of my tasks and so motivated. My house was spotless. Since I left the narc three years ago, I crumble at surprise stress and have symptoms that are close to adhd: unable to focus, hard time remembering things, easily distracted and flaky, and overall just not focused and motivated. Anyway, great advice. Thanks!
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@sava-k-mus
"Someday isn't a day of the week" that's money right there
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@mayaada7
I dont even have the mental energy to think of organization let alone doing it
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@nightowl2481
I’m going to listen again, I need this so bad. I’m gonna take a shower 🤗
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@sky2461
The first year after leaving nex all I could do was watch Netflix and go to counseling. Now in the second year I can at least start thinking about getting back into projects, though not yet organized.
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@sarahspencer9360
I'm so glad you mentioned this. It is the absolute worst. I had no idea this was part of this.
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@jeffreysherman8224
I've never felt the kind of love you bring to me. It's life-changing. I often cry while listening to you. (Like I am now 😢) I love you so much and I thank you with the deepest gratitude from my heart. I'm sending you a big hug. ❤😊❤
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@Gnomesaying315
This video is full of goodness. It has been five years for me and I think i'm doing great sometimes but then I fall down and Im right back to being depressed, lost and hopeless. I'm going to be getting a journal and writing down my thoughts at the current moment I have them. Even if it is just one word. I've never really journaled before but I've heard it helps with this type of trauma.
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@jelw3197
1 Calendar
2 Daily “to-do list”
3 Organized space
4 Planning place
5 Meal planning
6 long-term goals 6month+
7 Yoga & Meditation
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@loishendricks9720
I was literally asking myself what I had gotten done after a recent day of confusion. This is exactly what I’m looking for right now. Thank you so much.
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@battlehymnoftheempath3610
This is what people really need-they need to understand the "how to" of how to get better. Otherwise, we become a cult of narc haters-never wanting to improve ourselves for the better.
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@tonimitchell5863
I have STRUGGLED SO HARD for almost a whole year being able to get anything done because I have had no energy, ZERO motivation, and felt literally frozen inside about how to go about integrating back to everyday productive life.
I haven’t been able to work as my CPTSD and anxiety have been so terribly debilitating....but the reason the anxiety has been so bad is because I have all this stuff I should do or need to do and I haven’t done it bc I haven’t been clear headed enough to plan and hold myself accountable.
This video was the catalyst for me to begin to get back into a routine:
I had to move back in with my mom when my abuser discarded me, and have dealt with so much guilt and shame and condemnation from the inner critic about how I’m not able to progress in life and only digressed. And my family is so judgemental and offer no help or compassion... I’m about 80% sure the majority of my family (father for sure, brother possibly, grandma for sure, 1 aunt for sure) have some sort of cluster B issues going on, so the lack of empathy is definitely there.
Thank you Meredith for these videos and this one mostly because I’ve finally been able to have some hope and seeing the light at the end of this disgustingly dark tunnel.
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@invisibleme5
Wow! This is an extremely clear and well-organized video on time-management, self-discipline, healthy habits, and motivation for focusing and accomplishing goals large and small. Anyone can benefit from these specific strategies and your presentation of the information is so soothing - not at all overwhelming considering how comprehensive it is. I’m going to watch this again and again. Thank you, Meredith, for this video and for all you do to help people! ❤️🙂
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@grayrockaroundtheclock9937
Automation like this is the only way I survived grad school. I'm trying to get back to it now. This video was a great reminder for me to get going with it.
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